{"id":4921,"date":"2026-06-03T14:23:27","date_gmt":"2026-06-03T14:23:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/veraia.life\/?p=4921"},"modified":"2026-06-03T14:23:28","modified_gmt":"2026-06-03T14:23:28","slug":"how-support-someone-long-term-health-condition-burning-out","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/veraia.life\/bg\/how-support-someone-long-term-health-condition-burning-out\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Support Someone With a Long-Term Health Condition Without Burning Out"},"content":{"rendered":"
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How to Support Someone With a Long-Term Health Condition Without Burning Out?<\/span><\/p><\/h1>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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In my mind, I have been writing this post for years. Subconsciously. It started with one of my mentors back in 2017, whose sister fell really ill and needed care around the clock. I watched my mentor and at that point friend fade away. The fun loving, go out and party until 4 am on a week day (yes we were young(er) ) just faded in the background, becoming a shadow of who she was. Not on purpose, not because she was or was not doing something but because the pressure of being a carer and the only lifeline to her beloved sister was a heavy load to carry.<\/p>

Nobody prepares you for that. It can happen at any point. Back then I did not know that this was going to be the first of many instances in the coming of years for me to see this situation around me.<\/p>

A little after the COVID pandemic, my grandma quickly deteriorated due to Alzheimers. If you know anything about this disease, you would know that you see your loved one completely disappear in front of your eyes – day after day. Their body is there but they, what makes them ‘them’ is long gone.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>

The last year, I have watched my father go from one diagnosis to another, from hospital to hospital, ambulance calls and recovery cycles. Between his reduced mobility, heart problems, diabetes and a number of infections he developed a bed wound. A wound as big as a fist, that I watched my mother fight every second of her life the past 12 months, 52 weeks and 365 days.\u00a0<\/p>

My mother is the person that I write this about. In the hope that someone out there who may feel like crying, may feel invisible, may feel all the weight in the world on their shoulders because their loved one is totally dependent on them for survival can feel seen here.\u00a0<\/p>

Being a carer is selfless, it is pure love and I have the deepest respect for the people who dedicate themselves to their loved ones. However, for a moment, if you can allow yourself to read this, I would like to focus on you – yes, you, the carer. You probably have forgotten a bit about yourself in the process of becoming a carer. This is here to remind you that you matter too and hopefully some small lifestyle changes that can help you look after yourself as well.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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It is cliche to say that you cannot pour from an empty cup but cliches exist for a reason. It is easy to get lost in the needs of others when you look after them. Seeing the helplessness of a loved one, truly dependent on you puts your own needs at bay. It also makes you feel guilty at times, for doing anything outside of what they need. However, if you are looking after someone with a longterm condition, you need to find a balance for yourself to avoid exhaustion and ultimately burning out.<\/p>

Not much official research focuses on effects of\u00a0 personal burnout but the little that has been done outlines ‘caring for someone’ as one of the greatest predispositions for burnout. Burnout is not a mental health state but a state of exhaustion. Neglecting your needs for a prolonged period of time will ultimately lead to burnout. Here, I have tried to compile a mix of ideas between what Veraia, our new app, can help you with organising all the data you may be struggling to keep in your mind or across folders, drawers and emails. And some ideas about what has worked through time in the situations I have been involved in, the past few years.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Practical list<\/div>

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It is not about adding more tasks to your already exhausting list. It is about making some practical changes to help you manage the day to day, when it comes to your mental load reduction. It will be hard not to talk about Veraia<\/a> here. I built Veraia<\/a> after watching all those people around me struggle with ongoing battles to care for someone they deeply loved. I wanted to reduce the mental load I could see my mother carried every second – not to forget a medication, what to say to the ambulance, when to take the daily measurements, how to recognise the warning signs of the bed wound getting worse?<\/p>

So yes this list will show you what Veraia can do<\/a> to help you look after and care for your loved one at home but of course you can take the learnings and do it your way.<\/p>

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